Feeling accepted and being part of a group

Today's post is about a subject that I feel like every teenager has to deal with at least once. And that's (as you probably already know from the title) to feel accepted and to be part of a group because being a teenager is all about finding out who you really are, where you belong, what you really like etc...

For some people this can be harder than for others... 

We find being part of a group very important because we feel like we're accepted by that group for who we really are. We also feel like we belong somewhere. And that's a great feeling, but being part of a group isn't always that easy. We will sometimes be part of a group because we feel like we have no other choice. We feel like, if we're not part of that specific group, people will make fun of us or judge us. But isn't being part a group about having the chance to be yourself? And once you feel like you have to change something about yourself (even if it is something ridiculously small) to fit in, to be part of that group, you stop being yourself. Don't ever change who you are just be part of a group! It's really not worth it because there is another group that will accept you for who you are and won't judge you. If you have to try to belong somewhere, stop trying because also that is not worth it, believe me, I recently had to deal with it myself and it really isn't worth it. There are people out there, probably even closer than you think, that will accept you without having to try. If you feel left out or not accepted, talk about it! Talking about it really does help, it doesn't matter to who, a friend (who you can be yourself with), your parents, a teacher or even your diary, it helps! 

The most important thing is to hold to who really are. Because if you aren't yourself anymore, who or what are you? Also, when you meet new people, don't pretend to be someone else, be yourself, and if they don't like the real you, it's their loss! People judge, that's just human nature. And so what if they judge you? As long as you feel comfortable they can judge as much as they want because you know better!

Don't waist some of the best years of your life trying to be someone you're not. Find a group (even if it is a small one) where you can be yourself with and your teenage years will be so much more fun! 

A thing that I also learned is to not care too much about what people will think about you. Being yourself also means expressing yourself (using, clothes, appearance, ...) A quote I like to use is: 'Don't dress for them, dress for you' And it means don't care about what they'll think. Care about what you think and feel. It's so much easier being yourself than being someone else. And that 'rule' is not only fr your clothes it's for everything, do what you like not what you think others will like. Because you are not like others, everybody is different and unique in their own way. The world would be a boring place if everybody was the same wouldn't it?

Finding yourself is a part of being teenager and sometimes it's hard but as long as you're yourself, everything should be okay! And once you've figured it out, enjoy it! Do the things you want to do woth the people you want to do those things with!

I think the biggest message behind this post is pretty obvious: BE YOURSELF!

I hope you enjoyed this post because I would like to make more of these if they help people (:
I know I kinda said the same thing all te time but I just hope you understand me (:

xoxo, Cato

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P.S.: I was listening to this song recently and it perfectly describes this blog post : Colbie Caillat - Try , listen to it, it's amazing! (: